Two steps forward, one step back; if you’ve ever tried to help someone else to make positive changes to their lives, you’ll know that progress can be painfully slow. Just when you see that things are moving in the right direction, they revert to old ways which jeopardise all the effort they have put in so far.
You might be a debt counsellor who is gradually helping someone to manage their finances, but just as things are moving out of the red, the individual splashes out on some unnecessary purchase. You could be leading a diet and fitness programme and after weeks of following a strict diet plan, your clients regularly indulge in a fat and sugar feast.
These impulsive moments may be short-lived, but they can lead to feelings of guilt and disappointment. You might both be thinking ‘what’s the point?’ It takes more than a deep breath to find the energy and motivation to get back on track.
The majority of people would like to improve some aspect of their life and feel a greater sense of fulfilment. Yet even when we have the desire to change, it can be so difficult to initiate and sustain the changes that we need to undertake.
We often turn to others to help us and this can be beneficial; it holds us accountable. A friend, a community leader or a professional, asking for help is a major first step in taking action. These people often provide practical advice on the actions to be taken. They might suggest small steps in the right direction and offer support at each stage.
We start off enthusiastically, making progress in the right direction, but then something gets in the way; temptation, fear, self-doubt. This prevents us from taking action or drives us to take the wrong action. In an instant, we respond to the overriding emotion and logic goes out of the window.
Taking action is certainly part of the process, but you also need to change your thinking. We are driven to always getting the same results, no matter what actions we take, because of our thought process. Many of the things we do are habits that are so ingrained into our lifestyle that they seem essential. We hold ourselves back from realising our goals because change may deprive us of something that is the very essence of what makes us who we are.
If you are helping people to get out of debt, to lose weight, stop smoking, break free of a destructive relationship or change their career, you need to help them to think differently, as well as take action. You need to understand the role that the issue plays in their life and help them to rethink this. It is only by altering the thought process, that we can break habits.
If others do regularly turn to you for help, you can gain a better understanding of the impact of ‘mind over matter’ and the power of thought on NLP courses. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) focuses on combining thoughts and actions to achieve results. If you would like to find out more about NLP courses, Amersham based Cognisant Training have further details in our training area of the site. We also show other training courses offered in Amersham and the surrounding area.